When done right, fingering can be a pleasurable form of foreplay. Some people actually prefer finger fucking to oral sex. We wanted to know why. If you’ve wondered what the appeal could be read on to find out!

STD’s and wetness

“I have fingered every one of the 60+ women I have slept with. I think part of the reason is that subconsciously, we are trying to see if there’s anything strange inside, such as herpes sores or the like. I think also that we are trying to see how wet she is. Obviously, the wetter she is, the more we feel that we are appealing to her. If she’s totally dry, then it might mean she’s not aroused, and on top of that, we might hurt her if we have intercourse with her.” —Dan

“It’s called the finger test. Before we go any further I finger a woman to see if there are any weird odors I should know about, but obviously, this is not every woman.” —Marcus

Following the leader

“Oh, that’s easy. We do it because if we didn’t, women would be doing it to themselves. Most women when they masturbate start at the clit, but after a while, they dip one or two fingers (sometimes even more) down into themselves for a few strokes and then back out to the clit. I have always found that the best way to turn a woman on is to watch what she likes to do to herself and then copy it. ” —Phil

Show and tell

Being bluntly honest… it was the way I was shown and told to arouse. I am fortunate that all of the women I’ve been with have found it to be arousing. Playing with the clitoris and inserting my fingers seemed to pleasure both them and me so I never stopped to consider if they liked it or not. I thought it was the primary way to arouse a woman… besides oral stimulation, which is very good too for me.” —Robert

If you’re fingering your partner just because you think you have to you are missing out on a serious sexual opportunity. With just your fingers you can stimulate multiple areas at once, with just one hand the clit, the G-spot, the vaginal walls, and the anus (if she is comfortable with that) can all be manipulated.  So talk to your partner and see if they like a little finger foreplay when you play.