Thanksgiving is over so now it’s time for some dessert! Successful oral sex isn’t just about achieving orgasm, it’s about growing intimacy, gaining sexual confidence, and giving both your partner and yourself a gratifying experience. You may be a pro at oral, but having a few oral sex tips at your disposal certainly won’t hurt matters. These tips are meant to help elevate oral from just foreplay to an orgasmically intimate experience.

Boundaries Before

Some people have a hard boundary with oral, so first things first, get consent and set clear boundaries. The best time to have a chat about what you like and dislike about sex, oral or penetrative, is when your clothes are still on. Go over what you like, what you dislike, any fantasies you’re interested in, or anything that is an absolute no-go before you get going. This is a great way to avoid those awkward head push moments that can pop up during sex.

Pep Talk

Not only should you be complimenting your partner to help them feel more comfortable and relaxed about oral. (“I love how good you taste,” “Feeling you fill my mouth is such a turn on,” etc.) You should also be getting yourself in the right mindset. If you go into oral sex treating it like a chore, then it’s probably not going to be a great experience for either of you. Shift your mind set from I “have to” give oral to I “get to” give oral. Being in the right mindset can change oral sex from a chore to something you both get off on.

Tantalize the Senses

Taste and touch are obviously already highly involved in oral sex, but that doesn’t mean we should neglect the rest of the senses. Take a moment to appreciate the way your partner smells and the rhythm of their breath. The sounds of oral can sometimes be overwhelming, add some moans to keep things more erotic. You can also heighten their sense of touch by changing up the sensations, for example lick the head of your partner’s penis before you take them fully into your mouth. Or use your fingers on your partner’s clitoris before you start licking and sucking.

As with all sex don’t forget to pay attention to your partners nonverbal cues, they are sure to lead you to the right things to do.