Saturdays were made for exploring all the different marvelous things about sexuality. This week we are answering an anonymous question. What exactly is sex after gender affirmation surgery like? So, if you are struggling with gender identity issues, or are just curious in general about this aspect of a trans persons journey we have some answers for you.

The Biggest Q…or O

Is orgasm still possible? The short answer is Yes! Having surgery to confirm your true gender does not take away your ability to have or enjoy sex. In fact, the surgery is so advance that in the case of Male to Female surgeons not only create the vagina (made with penile skin), labia (scrotal skin), but they also are able to preform a clitoroplasty. When creating the clitoris typically the highly sensitive glans is taken from the tip of the penis and relocated here.

Post op actuality

It is important to remember that post op it is not a female with a penis, or a male with a vagina. Sex reassignment surgeries are normally one of the very last steps taken. After years of hormones, therapy, even legal transitions such as name changes, and sex corrections on legal documents. Post op you are looking at a female who is finally complete, and a male who is whole. For a trans person their penis or vagina post op is as much a natural beautiful part of themselves as a cis gendered persons is.

So, what is sex like?

As with any major surgery there is a long recovery period, however after recovery and in male to female cases the 6-month dilation process at first it is slightly awkward as many have reported feeling self-conscious or that maybe things aren’t going to work properly. Until they come to terms with the fact that just as with cis gendered people some sexual partners are just not good, sometimes sex is bumbling and awkward. However, with the right partners you learn to really love and enjoy your body and sex in a way that feel real and right that you haven’t been able to experience before. One woman went on record during an interview and said “I didn’t realize that it would be this beautiful, natural part of me. I was like, ‘Holy shit, this is beyond what I thought my sex life could be.’”

In short, sex trans or cis is…normal. It is a chance to explore yourself and your partner’s body and learn new things and new pleasures no matter what your gender or journey.