By now we have all heard about learning our own and our partners love languages, but what about their lust language? Making someone feel loved is important, however, around here Mondays are all about being a master at sexting, and what better way to be a master than to make someone feel desired and understood sexually? Whether you call them lust languages or not, knowing what gets you and your sexting partner going is a core element to good sexting.

First figure out their lust language

There is no fancy book to help you figure this out. The best way to find out what turns your partner on is to just ask them. Would you be into it if I…? Have you ever thought about trying…? What are your thoughts on…?

Next be observant

It’s easy to get lost in enjoying sexting, but if you spend a little time paying attention to the smaller details of what your partner is saying you can figure out a lot about their lust language.

Devils in the details lust language

If you notice your partner likes to include a lot of details, then chances are they really want you to fully build the scene for them with as many dirty details as possible. Someone with this style lust language will send sexts like: I’d love it if I could smell you right now. I’m imagining tasting you as we text. I want to hear you moaning.

Foreplay/Future lust language

Someone who is turned on talking about what has or will happen the next time you’re together will send sexts that sound like: I am looking forward to making you squirt in my face. I want to make you cum multiple times. It’s going to be so exciting the next time you can cum in my mouth.

Fantasy/Role play lust language

For many people sexting is a way to experience fantasies that interest them, but they aren’t ready to try in person. These types of sexts will be very obvious if they aren’t parts of your normal sex life. People with this lust language will send sexts like: This is so naughty. I’m going to make you beg for it. Or send sexts that are very obviously role playing.

Sexting is all about creating a mutual sexual fantasy, the more you know what turns your partner on the better the story you can build together. We will see you next week for more tips and tricks to help you master sexting!