The idea of a sex-drive is an extremely fluid concept. Sex drives very from person to person to begin with, so what you may feel is low for you may be another person’s normal. Aside from the person to person fluctuation libidos can be affected by small every day changes like diet and stress levels. If you feel like your sex drive is suffering here are some tips to find your sense of normalcy.
What can cause a low sex drive?
Sex is not only physical, there are also emotional and biological factors, so the number of things that can influence your sex life are essentially limitless. Birth control pills and other hormonal fluctuations can have a significant impact on your sex drive.
Your hormone levels can be impacted by more than just medicines, but also the food you eat, the chemicals you use to clean, and regular changes in your body. Depression and other mental and physical illnesses, including stress and lack of sleep, can also tank your libido.
Ways to try to raise libido without medicine
As crazy as it sounds having sex to raise your sex drive has actually been proved to be effective. For some people when you’re not having sex frequently you stop desiring it. So the next time you’re not tired or sick and are just simply not in the mood try giving it a go anyway. You may be surprised how much a simple tumble in the sheets can kick start your libido.
Learn each other’s love language. Sex builds a bridge between emotional and physical, but if you are misinterpreting each other’s signals you may find yourselves on different bridges entirely. Try changing things up. Routine can be wearing and boring, try something new, from new positions to new locations, a small change can respark your sexual appetite.
When all else fails
If you have tried communicating your struggles with your partner and still find yourself unable to get things heated up it may be time to consider libido boosters. If you think birth control may be part of the problem consider looking into non-horomonal birth control methods. Minimize your stress. Start a meditation practice. Sleep! See how you can restructure your day to tack on an extra 30 minutes on either end, or work in an afternoon snooze. Or, if insomnia’s your problem, read this piece on how to fall asleep and stay asleep.
